September 1 2015

7 Tips For Having The Confidence To Get Back On Track, by Randi Salko


Has this ever been you?  Sadly, very recently (as in yesterday), it was me!

For what feels like a very long time now, one of my claims to fame was that I lost 90 pounds in 2013 and “changed my life forever”.  What I learned during that weight loss journey was part of what inspired me to join with Lisa Taubes and start She’s Fit to Lead.

skinny-jeans-fitYou’ll note that I put changed my life forever in quotes.  That has a lot to do with the jeans from last summer that I can’t close (ok, I don’t actually know that I can’t close them, because I can’t actually get them over my hips to find out…), and what I would have to say was a truly horrifying number that I saw on the scale this morning (and yes, I do work out like a maniac, and no, I assure you, it is most certainly not all muscle…if only.).

pastryBy the way, if any of the cookies, chips, ice cream or bagels that found my way into my mouth this summer could talk (thankfully, they can’t…I silenced the witnesses, by eating them!), they would assure you that this weight gain (kind of sort of 20 pounds in fact) is quite real.

I know it’s not trendy these days to talk about needing to lose weight, and I honestly agree.  Weight is just a number.  What I care about, and what She’s Fit to Lead cares about is how you feel, and only you can know that.  So here’s how I feel…not great.  Not horrible.  But not great.  I don’t feel as confident as I did a year ago.  I’m kind of afraid of my closet.  I see shades of old me, who dreaded business meetings or dressy events because I never felt good, and constantly distracted myself from the task at hand with negative thoughts about whether I was the heaviest person in the room (generally yes in those days) and whether people noticed (I’m guessing they did).

So yes, weight is just a number, fat is a taboo word, and strong is the new skinny, and all that.  But here’s my reality.  I feel uncomfortable in my own body right now, and that makes me feel not very Fit to Lead.  So, I’ve decided that today is the day.  I’m getting back on track.  What does that mean:

keep-calm-and-no-junk-food1. Remove Temptation – Lucky for me, it’s garbage day, making it the perfect day to go through cabinets, fridge and freezer.  Adios to my pals Ben & Jerry, waiting around in the freezer for me to visit, and all of their highly processed, sugary, starchy, empty calorie friends.  See ya sometime (maybe), but not right now.

veggies2…But Don’t Go Hungry – Time to restock with lots of healthy options.  Cut up fresh veggies and fresh fruit.  Lots of lean protein like sliced turkey and grilled chicken breast.  Filling, high fiber add ins like chia and flax.  Nutrition packed grains like oats and quinoa.

3.  Tiny Bites – Actually not literally (although also a good idea).  Needing to lose 20 pounds, or something like that, is simply too big to get my brain around.  So I manage in little steps – 4 or 5 pound increments.

4.  Consult An Expert – Surprise!  This is not what you think.  The expert I think you should consult is the one who knows you better than anyone…you guessed it…you!  What works for one person, can be a disaster for another, and truly, only you know what’s right for you.  For example, I’m not a one cookie kind of girl (unless that was one box you were referring to) never was, would love to be, but never will be, so for me, keeping cookies in the house, and telling myself I’ll have one a night is the path to disaster.  For you, it might be the perfect thing to keep you motivated.

5.  Keep It Fun – Getting back on track doesn’t mean putting your life on hold.  I love reading the tips of our food writers and listening to our video bloggers to get fresh new ideas on healthy eating.  Cook or go out with like minded friends.  Meet weekly for a non-food activity like a manicure or a work out.  Make it a competition, if that’s your kind of thing.  If it’s fun for you, you will stick with it.

6.  Move – Fact! No one ever got into shape by just working out and eating whatever they wanted to.  However, burning those extra calories will certainly help to jump start your weight loss, keeping you motivated.  Also, building up those muscles will keep you toned and help you avoid those post weight loss bat wings!

7.  Consistency and Patience – When I lost all my weight, I kept telling myself, “stick with the program.”  Not every day goes your way.  Some are better than others, but even if you do get off track, just pick up where you left off.  One thing I learned is don’t say, “Well now I blew the day so I’ll start again tomorrow.”.  Why wait?  Get right back on course with your next meal.  Rome wasn’t built in a day, and we’re not going to get to where we want to be overnight either.  Take a long view.  Know that if you are being consistent, you will get there!


So thanks for letting me share!  Here’s to new beginnings.



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About Randi Salko

Hi, I’m Randi Salko, and I’m the CEO for She’s Fit to Lead. Throughout my career as a lawyer and a financial services executive, my passion has always been creating an empowering environment for the women around me. And now, with She’s Fit to Lead, I am living my dream of helping young women to #ConnectToConfidence. I’ve learned a lot on my journey, and I love having the opportunity to share it, and to learn from our contributors and followers who inspire me every day. I also love hot yoga and ice cream (what a combo, right?). I’d love to hear from you at randi@shesfittolead.com.

3 thoughts on “7 Tips For Having The Confidence To Get Back On Track, by Randi Salko

  1. Good Luck with your journey. I am confident that you can do it and impressed with your honesty to share.


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