Oh no! This is my first year being at a coed school for Valentine’s Day in eight years. For the past eight years, Valentine’s Day consisted of 82 girls, food, chocolate, and more food. So you probably understand where I’m coming from.
Anyway, as Valentine’s Day quickly approaches, every girl on this planet wishes to have the most perfect, romantic date ever (especially if you just saw the newest Nicholas Sparks movie called The Choice…Ps. I recommend it if you haven’t.) We, as girls, or maybe I’m just speaking for myself, always hope for a secret admirer to show up with a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates. We listen to love songs and imagine our future selves, or maybe in some cases, remember the past.
However, this Valentine’s Day instead of hoping for someone to magically appear, or growing one of those foam “Dream Boyfriends” in a cup of water, we should learn to be our own valentines, and to love ourselves. And I’ll be the first to admit, it’s a really hard thing to do. Love yourself enough to know what you deserve, and don’t settle for any less than that.
Now, I took anatomy last semester and I held a heart in my hands. It’s surprisingly heavy and every one has all of these random passageways. Yes, I suppose that is where the blood flows through, but I think more than that, it’s where the love flows through. Everyone is capable of loving others, and everyone is capable of loving themselves. It requires effort but it’s possible.
In life, we are our harshest critics. We are much more likely to believe the negative stuff than any compliment. It’s incredibly admirable to be ambitious, but we have to realize that even if we don’t succeed in everything or reach every dream, we are still just as great. We need to change our mindsight. Instead of thinking of all the things that could be better or different, think about all of the great things you’ve already done; how amazing you already are; and how beautiful inside and out you truly are. Stop picking out the things you do wrong, and start loving yourself for all the things you do right.
Stop and think for a minute about the person you admire the most, then the people you admire most. Why do you admire them? More often than not, it is because they are the people who radiate happiness and that confidence through happiness that they radiate inspires others.
So take a moment. Pick out everything you love about yourself. Make yourself a Valentine’s Day card. Remind yourself about why you love yourself because most likely it’s why others love you too. Make peace with what you see in the mirror, accept yourself for your personality quirks, and watch as your confidence grows.
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