“You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to other people.”
I came across this quote last week and for some reason it’s one of those things that have stuck in my mind. Probably because I’m guilty of it and for all those who love doing things for others, you know how I feel. We all have people who are so incredibly important to us, and sometimes we put this importance before ourselves. However, it’s time for you to take all the love you spread and invest it in yourself.
Putting yourself first does not make you selfish, it does not mean you don’t care about others. Honestly, you can’t help others if you don’t help yourself first. It means you care about them so much that you want to give them the best you can, and you can only do that if you are full on the inside. It reminds me of sparklers. When you light a sparkler with another sparkler the fire doesn’t go out on the one that just shared its flame. You don’t need to give up any part of yourself in order to be happy. The more time you take for yourself the better impact it will have on your relationships.
Think about what you need for yourself to be your best possible self. What brings you happiness? What brings you relaxation? Dedicate yourself to these things and surround yourself with people who want you to do just that. You’re your own biggest critic, but you also have the potential to be your own biggest supporter. Do not be afraid to take a step back and focus on yourself. You owe yourself the same kind of love, patience, care and kindness that you have given everyone else. For all those Grey’s Anatomy fans, to quote the brilliant Cristina Yang, “Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun, you are.” Now this doesn’t just apply to boys. You are always the sun, and you are always as important and crucial as the sun. Remember that.
Start today. Start loving yourself with the same unconditional love you spread to everyone else. Bake yourself some cookies, treat yourself to get your nails done, take a bubble bath, write a sticky note telling yourself how awesome you are. You deserve it as much as anyone else, if not more.