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Learning to be Diet-free

June 15, 2017 by Li Cohen Leave a Comment

How to Stop Obsessing Over your Body and WeightLearning to be comfortable in your own skin can be a daunting task. From a young age, women are shown that beauty is only attainable through being thin. From constantly receiving this message, women often resort to taking on numerous diets for short periods of time to get the ‘ideal’ body they see around them. These diets tend to be too rigorous and lead to rapid weight loss, and while this may be effective in the short term, it is more detrimental in the long run.




When you take on fad diets time after time, weight fluctuates dramatically, taking a huge toll on your mental, emotional and physical state. The constant dieting creates the mentality that your body is never good enough and that you consistently have to work toward that one goal of attaining the ‘perfect’ body. The truth, however, is that there is no such thing as a perfect body and no amount of dieting will get you at a point of feeling perfect.

Consistent dieting creates a consistent mentality of imperfection. Regardless of what goals are attained, none of them will feel good enough and there will always be a train of doubt running through your mind. Instead of looking for the next best diet and trying to reach a particular weight or dress size, strive to be healthy.

Living diet-free is learning to take on a lifestyle focused on becoming healthy overall — physically, mentally and emotionally. Rather than saying you have to run to burn 600 calories at the gym, say you need to go for a run because it is a great stress relief and makes you feel good. Instead of counting how many calories you eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner, count on eating whole, clean foods that add pure nutrition to your body.

You can do the following to maintain a healthy lifestyle:

  • Drink more water
  • Sleep to rejuvenate
  • Meditate for reflection
  • Exercise for health, not weight-loss
  • Eat the foods you enjoy most, just moderate the amount
  • Love yourself for the good and the bad
  • Live purposefully and work toward life goals
  • Consume raw and fresh, not processed and old
  • Hang out with healthy individuals
  • Work toward happiness

Stay Fit and Healthy

Driving your attention to mindful living instead of dieting helps create an effective and healthy lifestyle that will help you achieve the best version of yourself for years to come, not just for a few weeks.

Filed Under: Fitness, Fitness Tips, Food, Health, Look Great, Self Tagged With: diet, diet free, exercise, gym, Happiness, healthy, love yourself, meditate, nutrition, sleep, stress relief, women

I HEART VALENTINE’S DAY

February 14, 2017 by Meredith Sherbin Leave a Comment

It’s February 14. You know what that means? Yes, it’s Valentine’s Day! And it’s one of my favorite holidays. Big stuffed teddy bears with heart collars, boxes and boxes of chocolates, and dozens of red roses line up every store window.

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The beautiful colors, delicious chocolates, and lovely little gifts and cards shared between loved ones makes today such a positive and uplifting holiday. I know some girls are thinking, “but I don’t have a boyfriend so this year is just going to be another night of me crying into my ice cream carton binge-watching ‘Scandal’.” Well, if that is you and you are reading this right now, we are going to change that mindset. Yes, Valentine’s Day is typically celebrated by a couple in love, but that doesn’t need to be the case. I love Valentine’s Day because it encourages everyone, regardless of relationship status, to take a step back from the hustle and bustle of life and to just love and appreciate. One tradition in my family is that every February 14, my dad will come home with five cards, one beautiful bouquet of a dozen roses, five boxes of chocolate, and a little something extra for each of his daughters. My mom, three sisters and I anxiously await the yummy chocolates, and the little box wrapped in hearts, and the most special part is reading the unique message he writes on each card. The look on my mom’s face when my dad hands her the roses, as if she is shocked with this gesture, is a memory that I will never forget. My dad definitely set the bar HIGH for any boyfriend or husband of a Sherbin daughter.




Aside from the candy, flowers, and adorable cards, Valentine’s Day, the holiday of love, offers an important message to all that I think is forgotten way too often. That is to love. Love your life. Love your friends. Love your partner. Love your family. Love YOURSELF.

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That right there, to me, is the most important one. More people need to stop and take the time to love themselves, love who they are, love what they do, and love their lives. If you are having a stressful day, take some time to do something that makes you smile, and it doesn’t hurt to have an excuse to eat chocolate all day. Loving and caring for yourself is the best way to keep yourself happy and healthy.

Valentine’s Day should be a holiday based around loving yourself and being proud to be you. Whether you do that by sitting in bed alone watching sad movies, sharing a 5-star meal with the love of your life, or somewhere in between, having love in your life is the best thing you can do.

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DUN DUN DUN…. VALENTINE’S DAY

February 14, 2017 by Kelly Sodano Leave a Comment

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Valentine’s Day, for some, is the most romantic day of the year! Full of candy, flowers, and LOVE everywhere. For all the single ladies out there (Yes I include myself in this), it is a day that we all just want to be over. All of the lovey dovey couples on the streets, and our Instagram feeds, it’s just unavoidable. I admit to being high key jealous for a while of these people, especially on February 14th. Why can’t I have what they have? What the hell am I doing wrong?

After my boyfriend and I broke up, this was something that I HIGHLY struggled with. Even now sometimes, I question what is wrong with me, and why I can’t find someone to just LOVE

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ME ALREADY. But, I realized over time that the most important person that should love you is yourself. For the longest time, I was looking so hard for someone else to love me that my self-esteem had just completely disintegrated. I was in such a dark place, a place that I lost myself in. All I wanted was to find someone who would bring me up, because I didn’t realize that I could do it myself. I was an empty shell that wanted attention and love. I was desperate.

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Luckily for me, I had the support of my friends and family that made me realize that I DID have people that love me. Yeah, maybe I can’t take cute couple pictures with them, and I don’t have someone to call my “boyfriend,” but that’s not what matters. Surrounding yourself with people who will bring you up and make you better on your worst days; THAT’S what love should be about. Not only having other people to do this, but also learning to do this yourself. Going to the gym, getting your nails done, getting an A on the test you thought you failed but studied so hard for. Do things for yourself, show yourself some love, and you won’t be looking so hard for someone else to do this. It was something that I struggled so long with, but now that I have learned what it means to love, and what love should mean to me.

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So, this Valentine’s Day, when passing by all the cute couples, there’s no need to feel down! Buy something for yourself that you’ve wanted for a long time. Have a bunch of your single friends over for a movie night. Plan a cute dinner for your family, buy them some chocolate. Valentine’s Day isn’t about having a boyfriend or girlfriend; it is about appreciating all of the people in your life that you love, including yourself. Yes, eventually that will include a significant other. But don’t rush it, you don’t NEED a man in your life to be happy. When that time comes, you will have so much love for yourself and the people around you that you will be able to contribute so much more to your relationship. So, for now, Happy Valentine’s day to YOU and all of the people you love!!!

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Filed Under: News Tagged With: galentine's day, love yourself, self love, single ladies, valentine's

Why its Okay to Be Single on Valentine’s Day

February 12, 2017 by Emma Spoldi Leave a Comment

It’s February 12th, and you know what that means…Valentine’s Day is two days away. You’re not with someone, so you think this “holiday” is absolutely ridiculous because it reminds you aren’t in a relationship.




Hold up. If you have the preceding thoughts, STOP RIGHT NOW. Valentine’s Day is not just subjugated to couples.  You have the power to turn this holiday around and make it special for yourself. Here’s why you should be happy being single on Valentine’s Day:

It’s a time to love yourself 

One of the most important relationships we tend to forget is the relationship with ourselves. This thought often strays away from us, especially in times of stress. So, take Valentine’s Day as a day to reflect on who you are. If you start to value your morals and what you want, you may just find that perfect someone. “Loving yourself is not selfish, it is the only way you can truly love others.”

It’s a time to love the people around you 

Instead of dwelling on the fact that you may be alone on this day, take your love and spread it to the people you care most about. Who says Valentine’s Day is solely for couples? It’s a day to let others know much you mean to them. So, get them a card and chocolates because they, too, deserve your love!

You don’t have the pressure of the day

No need to sweat over trying to get the perfect gifts for your special someone. You can sit and relax, while others are hectically and nervously planning the day’s date.

There’s an excuse to binge watch your favorite Netflix series or movies 

Too busy to sit and watch your favorite shows and movies? You have an excuse on Valentine’s Day, so grab a snack and treat yourself to a marathon!

You can spend the day with your closest friends

Don’t sulk, hang out with your closest friends. Laugh and spend some quality time with the people who make you feel loved!

You are not alone on this Day, pamper yourself and remember it’s okay to be single on Valentine’s Day!

Filed Under: Self Tagged With: fun on valentine's day, love yourself, single, valentine's day, valentine's day solo

A New Kind of Voice: A Review of Gala Darling’s Radical Self-Love

December 19, 2016 by Holley Long Leave a Comment


As an infrequent reader of the self-improvement genre, I can only assume there are certain cliches that must be adhered to when penning the books. Such cliches, I assume, include a description of rock bottom, a decision to change, and steps to take in order to head in that direction of a different life. Gala Darling takes those cliches, incorporates them, and expands them with her charming and enthusiastic voice narrating a self-help book that could convince most that all hope is not lost for them.

Darling, an author, speaker, and teacher, wrote Radical Self-Love: A Guide to Loving Yourself and Living Your Dreams after surviving depression, self-harm, and an eating disorder that left her feeling worthless. For nearly a decade she has taught radical self-love to women struggling to transform their lives, utilizing select techniques and tools to achieve their goals. Besides this book, Darling’s writing has appeared in media outlets such as The New York Times, Teen Vogue, New York Post, Cosmopolitan, and others. With her writing, instruction, and encouragement, Darling is responsible for helping millions of women fulfill their mission and pursue life without fear, but with love for themselves and the world around them.
Radical Self-Love is divided into three sections. The first, “Loving Yourself,” deals with letting go of negative thoughts about body, appearance, and position. She lists ways to combat radical self-loathing by learning to appreciate and get in touch with the self. Darling suggests #radicalselflovedates, on which the individual does a fun activity alone, with just her thoughts to accompany her on an enjoyable excursion. It’s important, she advises, for the best relationship a person has to be with his- or herself, before he or she can embark on any other relationships. This leads into the second section, “Loving Others,” where Darling discusses forming bonds with friends and lovers, and how to maintain healthy relationships. She explains it isn’t reasonable to have only one or two people with whom we go through life with, because it simply isn’t reasonable that one or two people could give us everything we require from outside ourselves. She also warns against forming “friendships of convenience,” instead suggesting going out and finding friends with whom there is an actual connection. This extends to forming more personal relationships with lovers, and finding someone who doesn’t complete the other, but rather makes living richer. Darling closes the book with the last section, “Daily Magic,” in which she writes about the many ways a person can infuse life with wonder each day. Some include surrounding ourselves with inspirational objects or building a vision board for the future. She suggests trying a new wardrobe to reflect the changes happening inwardly, offers tips on maintaining conversations with strangers, and lists the mannerisms one performs in social settings that spell success.

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Gala Darling is keen on the “visual”: faking it until making it, imagining the future, manifestation. Manifestation refers to “meeting the universe halfway,” so to speak, by working toward dreams, thinking about them so thoughts can become actions, and waiting patiently for the universe to supply the opportunities to pursue different paths. This can be achieved by surrounding ourselves with objects of inspiration: pictures, books, images of what the future could be. Darling suggests looking towards successful people and building on what they’ve achieved (as she puts, “why try to reinvent the wheel?”) Basically, her book revolves around the idea that “if you can see it, you can do it.” An idea I am sure plays a central role in many self-improvement books.

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The self-help cliches are fleshed out and expanded in Darling’s books in ways I found intriguing, as she had a unique take on some suggestions I had not thought of. For instance, her suggestion to reduce social media perusing is understandable enough; after all, how many times does it have to be said that burying our faces in our cell phones keeps us from developing healthy relationships with people? However, this is not the stance Darling takes. Instead, she suggests that getting sucked into our phones distracts us from loving ourselves. Social media and the internet keep us from being alone with our thoughts and thus keep us from fully understanding who we are. I was intrigued by this idea, because it was one I had not heard before, and one I recognized as all but true.

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Similarly, the cliched “rock bottom” is lit with a new light, in my opinion. What Gala Darling describes as her bottom is reminiscent of what millennials today refer to as the “quarter-life crisis.” It is that feeling that there is no path to success, or that there are multiple paths, and no way to walk them. Darling’s bottom is accompanied with depression and an eating disorder, telling her, not only that she doesn’t deserve to feel happy and loved, but that if she were happy and loved she would not be interesting. This, again, is something that I personally haven’t seen spelled out as such, but recognize it as true; Darling’s fear, spoken to her by her depression and eating disorder, was that happiness would hurt her creativity. It isn’t a far leap to think this is true, when so many well-known creators have struggled exponentially; it can almost seem like a prerequisite to be an artist of any kind is to suffer. Darling challenges this notion by revealing how much more creative she has become in her changed life, full of radical self-love and happiness, and I think that is something that needs to be said more often.

While there are numerous positive aspects of the book, there are some disagreements I have a few of the suggestions Darling put forth. For instance, her suggestion to “smile even when you don’t feel like it” bothered me because it reminds me of the advice to “grin and bear it.” This, in my opinion, is not a healthy expression of feelings; implying that a smile should grace our faces even when we are sad or angry places a taboo on those very natural emotions. We need to feel sad and angry without thinking it damages our psyche. No one is saying wallow in self-pity, but a healthy expression of negative feelings could lead to a more vibrant happiness.

Darling also paints the process of transforming one’s life with broad strokes. At times, the vision seems so broad as to leave a sense of openness that, while all encompassing, can seem too general. The only instances where Darling’s book seems grounded in specifics are when she is discussing her own past and her path to a better life. For her readers, she offers very basic advice that may or may not even fit for each person’s struggle; it may not be so simple to just create a visions board and smile and believe in one’s self. While it would be unreasonable to ask Darling to address all of the individual problems and paths in one book, it would be interesting to see them tackled in future writing, with more details incorporated from those she has already helped.

All in all, Radical Self-Love does what a self-help book it supposed to do, and it does so in a very compact, matter-of-fact tone; the book left me optimistic and excited to work towards a better life, confident that I can achieve anything. I would recommend this to anyone struggling in that space between now and the rest of their lives, and see what kind of changes can be brought by Darling’s words.

 

Filed Under: Feel Great, Love, Self Tagged With: book review, gala darling, holley long, love yourself, radical self love, self help book, self love

Transformation Tuesday – Learning To Love Yourself

October 25, 2016 by Jordan Cohen Leave a Comment

“You owe yourself the love that you so freely give to other people.”

youoweyourselfI came across this quote last week and for some reason it’s one of those things that have stuck in my mind. Probably because I’m guilty of it and for all those who love doing things for others, you know how I feel. We all have people who are so incredibly important to us, and sometimes we put this importance before ourselves. However, it’s time for you to take all the love you spread and invest it in yourself.




Putting yourself first does not make you selfish, it does not mean you don’t care about others. Honestly, you can’t help others if you don’t help yourself first. It means you care about them so much that you want to give them the best you can, and you can only do that if you are full on the inside. It reminds me of sparklers. When you light a sparkler with another sparkler the fire doesn’t go out on the one that just shared its flame. You don’t need to give up any part of yourself in order to be happy. The more time you take for yourself the better impact it will have on your relationships.

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Think about what you need for yourself to be your best possible self. What brings you happiness? What brings you relaxation? Dedicate yourself to these things and surround yourself with people who want you to do just that. You’re your own biggest critic, but you also have the potential to be your own biggest supporter. Do not be afraid to take a step back and focus on yourself. You owe yourself the same kind of love, patience, care and kindness that you have given everyone else. For all those Grey’s Anatomy fans, to quote the brilliant Cristina Yang, “Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun, you are.” Now this doesn’t just apply to boys. You are always the sun, and you are always as important and crucial as the sun. Remember that.

 

Start today. Start loving yourself with the same unconditional love you spread to everyone else. Bake yourself some cookies, treat yourself to get your nails done, take a bubble bath, write a sticky note telling yourself how awesome you are. You deserve it as much as anyone else, if not more.

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Filed Under: Feel Great, Love, Self Tagged With: care, focus on you, Happiness, happy, kindness, Love, love yourself, patience, relaxation

The Difficulties of Body Acceptance

July 25, 2016 by Katarina Williams Leave a Comment

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How sick of you are comparing your body to others? With weighing it on the scale? With depriving it of the foods it needs? This fall, how about you decide to try a new approach: tolerating your body, and maybe even learning to embrace it. This past week, my friend and I came across an Instagram post by @yogainspiration. The post really spoke to me and inspired me to delve deeper into a path of body acceptance.




Deciding to accept your body for what it is and learning to love is an important start. No matter how badly you want to stop hating yourself, we are only human and it is fairly easy to get stuck along a body acceptance journey. Maybe the one thing that’s stopping you is understanding how to turn this desire into an action or tangible milestones. In the midst of summer and bikini season you start witnessing that little voice inside your head that keeps nagging you, “If only my thighs were skinnier, I would be happier. If only I could just lose ten pounds I would love myself.” Instead of harping over these thoughts, witness them as an observer watches clouds pass in the sky.  As you see each thought pass, remind yourself that these thoughts aren’t ultimate truths.

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Tangible milestones to turn these hopes for yourself begin with starting to fill your day with doing at least one thing each for your mind, body, and soul. Maybe you take a water color or photography class to help you live more in the moment. Or maybe you try that new kickboxing class with your friends and laugh till your abs hurt. Find a yoga class that helps you practice mindfulness and looking deeper into the little things that life gives. Start listening to your body. Resting when you need rest. Breathing when you feel overwhelmed.

Focusing on these tangible milestones takes the time away that you’ve spent criticizing yourself and channeling the newfound energy into a new project or hobby.

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One thing I have started is to write down one thing about myself every day that adds benefit to my life whether it be muscles in my legs that help me to do a spin class or teach a barre lesson or a smile that could brighten a strangers day.

Body Acceptance and self-love is not an easy transition. Know that it takes time. The day you decide to stop despising your body could help to change your whole outlook on life. It will kick-start a meaningful process. It is a decision that serves you. That supports a fulfilling life. Because opening the door to this kind of positivity is a gift. One of the best presents you can give yourself.

Filed Under: Health, Love, Self Tagged With: anti diet project, body acceptance, body positive, katarina williams, love yourself

It’s Time to Start Loving Yourself, OK?

July 6, 2016 by Annie Hickey 2 Comments

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For my very first article here on SFTL, I wanted to write about something important. Something I not only believe in, but also understand – truly, wholeheartedly relate to. And to discover this meaning, I had to tap into what it was about SFTL that made me so desperately want to join the team.

The fight for love – self love – #ConnectToConfidence.

As a girl who has grown up her entire life loving sports of all kinds – running, swimming, dancing, gymnastics, softball, and tennis – exercise and health have always been synonymous with enjoyment and habit. Yet, from the age of around 14 or 15, I became hyper-aware of my body. I began to critique what it could and could not do, demand that it perform better, question the way I looked and, most devastatingly, adopt the habit of comparing myself to everyone.

I placed my body next to the images of one supermodel after another, genuinely wondering why my awkward 15-year-old body wasn’t shaped and sculpted as perfectly as her 25-year old, multi-million-dollar physique.

Every little thing became engorged and simultaneously inadequate – my legs were too wide, my torso was too small, my nose too flat, my hair too thick, my eyebrows too rogue, my skin too lumpy, and my stomach too loose. The list never ended.

Picking out my flaws suddenly wasn’t enough. I began creating them. And with a habit of comparison comes the side effect of submission.

Girls who behaved badly at school, or were rude to me at parties, or incessantly gossiped about others, were excused within my mind for the simple fact that I thought they were pretty. It didn’t matter how awful they were – external, personally-perceived beauty was all that mattered to me.

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For years, this unwanted obsession plagued my thoughts, dreams, goals and my lifestyle. I lived my life as though I was constantly slipping; wanting to be perfect, realizing that perfection was unattainable, yet trying again anyway.

Even still, I slip.

I’m not here to tell you to simply love yourself because I know it’s not that simple. I’m not here to preach the importance of physical diversity and the expansion of body image publications. You already know the need for this, and you already want to love yourself – if you didn’t, you wouldn’t be reading this article.

What I want to say to you – and what I hope will reach you – is that your youth is limited, and, right now, you’re wasting your time.

Already, as I turn 20, I look back on the past six years of my adolescence and am endlessly frustrated by the fear that tainted how I chose to live. The fact that I wouldn’t eat birthday cake on special occasions for a fear of gaining weight. The fact that I wouldn’t sleep because I cared so much about always doing and being absolutely perfect with everything. The fact that I talked to some girls, and not to others, based off my own shallow, external judgments.

I may only be 20, but 20 is still too late to realize that your youth is wasting.

The reality is that there is time in this life — don’t get caught up in the belief that nobody has time for anything because we do. We have time to travel, to work, and to explore. We have time to fall in love and out of love, and possibly even back in love once more. We have time to make mistakes and learn from them. We have time to ask those big questions, and we have time to find the answers, too. But what we do not have time for, is wasting time. This, we cannot afford.

It’s not that you can’t start loving yourself – it’s that you don’t realize how desperately you need to. So please, not for my sake, but for yours, reprogram your thoughts. Break those habits that tear you down, and fill yourself with positivity and confidence, optimism and motivation. The more we embrace these emotions, the more these emotions will color our lives.

Paint, create, inspire, love.

Filed Under: Feel Great, Love, Self Tagged With: choose to shine, confidence, connect to confidence, dancing, feel good, flaws, inspiration, love yourself, monday motivator, motivation, positivity, Running, school, self love, swimming

I’m Ridin Solo by Kelly Sodano

February 27, 2016 by Kelly Sodano Leave a Comment

In my life, I had always been reliant on other people to make me happy. I needed someone to be there for me and to keep me company at all times; I couldn’t be alone. Being alone scared me, so I surrounded myself with people, strangers, to fill my life up and make me happy. I put myself in relationships to make sure that I had someone I could rely on unconditionally, because I didn’t know how to rely on myself. Once I got out of my long term relationship, I really struggled with myself. I didn’t know how to be alone and how to be happy alone. I went into a depression; an internal sadness that I couldn’t rid of. How do I move on from this? How could I continue my life alone?



i feel so aloneWell, I still haven’t figured that out yet, so when I do I will let you know! But there are some things that I have begun to realize. It is okay to be alone! Being alone doesn’t mean you’re a failure, and you have no life or friends; instead, it means that you are strong and confident enough to go at life by yourself, and you don’t need anyone to do it for you. So, when you are hanging out with your “friends” not because you like them, but you have no one else to keep you company, think about if you really need these people in your life. I surrounded myself with people who I pretended were my “friends,” so that I wouldn’t get lonely.

bestfrendsgiphyDon’t do this! Instead, really put yourself out there and let your self-confidence shine through. This will allow you to make REAL friends, and people who will genuinely be there for you through your ups and downs.



But remember, you do not need to rely on them. Now, I’m not saying you can’t go to others close to you for advice and help, but you shouldn’t be worrying about how other people will make you happy. Instead, focus on how to do that all on your own. In order to fully accept new people into your life, it is so important to fully understand yourself, and love yourself first. I struggled with this for a long time, and felt like I had zero self-confidence or self-worth. But, it is almost impossible to find true friends and real relationships when you don’t even know yourself, and you are not confident in the person you are. Once you are able to do this, then you will be able to rid yourself of the people you are keeping in your life, who don’t really treat you the way you want or deserve, and move on to finding true relationships that will last a lifetime.

i'm your personMy advice to you is simple. Don’t worry so much about surrounding yourself with people to make you happy; it is more than possible to make yourself happy on your own. Although it may be easier to hide yourself by bringing in others to run your life for you, it will haunt you in the long run. It is not easy, and it is something that I still struggle with. But loving you and allowing yourself to be strong and independent on your own is the biggest step you could take towards happiness. Doing so will allow you to show your true self to those around you, and to create real relationships and friendships with others that will not control your life, but just make it all that much better. Be the owner of your own life; take control and make yourself happy.

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Read More By Kelly:

Ask Kelly

A Girl’s Guide To Loving Herself

How To Get Over A Bad Break Up

A Letter To My High School Self

Meet Kelly:

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Filed Under: Self Tagged With: find your happiness, kelly sodano, love yourself, self confidence, self love

Why I’m Buying Myself Roses For Valentine’s Day, A Poem by Anonymous

February 14, 2016 by She's Fit to Lead Leave a Comment





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February Fourteenth
AKA: Valentine’s Day.

Chocolate everywhere
Yes! Love is in the air.
Just wait a day,
On Monday all the chocolates will be on sale.

However, I’m no damsel in distress.
Nevertheless,
Yes, I’ve had a valentine, or two…

And to encourage,
This is me telling you to pick up the courage,
The confidence.
To buy yourself roses

Because there shouldn’t be a day.
A designated day to show love,
Whether to yourself,
OR to others.

love yourself




Read More About Valentine”s Day [click here]

 

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You Should Go and Love Yourself By Briana Esposito

February 12, 2016 by Briana Esposito Leave a Comment

…not in the way JBiebs meant it, but in the way our OG favorite blogger Carrie Bradshaw meant it (and if you don’t get this reference reevaluate your life).



CB once told us “don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first,” and she’s right.

fallinlovewithyourselfWe spend so much time working to impress others with what we wear, how we act, or how we look in a bikini, but we forget to impress ourselves, forget to make ourselves happy. And why? Why do we take the backseat to ourselves? We shouldn’t have to keep reminding ourselves that someone would be lucky to date us, or that we are pretty enough, or smart enough. We are more than all that. We are more than good enough. We are intelligent, beautiful, and kind, and we need to remember to treat ourselves that way.

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So here is a friendly reminder from me: go and love yourself.



lovememoreYou deserve it. Go for the whipped cream on the frap if you’re craving it; it won’t ruin your life. Drag yourself to the gym FOR YOU- not for anyone else. Eliminate the toxic (not the Britney Spears kind of Toxic) people from your life; you don’t need them, and that’s okay. Keep people around who bring you up. Trust your instincts, stay confident, and remember that you are enough just as you are.



Read More Like This:

What Is Love?  Quotes From Real Girls and Real Guys by Jordan Cohen

Valentine’s Day by Jordan Cohen

A Girlfriend’s Guide to Moving On by Jess Greene

How To Get Over A Bad Breakup by Kelly Sodano

Meet Briana:

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She's Fit To Lead is the place for college and early career women to go to become confident leaders in the real world. We achieve our mission through our website and social media. ABOUT SFTL
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