All of middle school and high school you dreamed of the future in which you were going to go to college and have the time of your life. You were dreaming of it, because it was so far away and seemed out of reach at the moment because it is one of the things in life that can’t be rushed; one has to pay their dues and complete their high school years first.
When fall of your senior year comes around you are so ready to be on your own and be at the college that you will claim is the “best place in the world”. You are narrowing down your choices and cramming to make the deadlines. Then after the dreaded wait to figure out if you get into your schools, you find out which ones you get into and pick the special college or university that you will be spending 4 years of your life at. It’s a momentous time in your life, and I knew it was one in mine. After I got into Boston University ED, I jumped into my car and blasted “The Dog Days are Over” by Florence and The Machine; I was excited to say the least.
Knowing where you are headed in the fall is reassuring and exciting, because you are headed to a place that is going to shape you into your future self. You will not only be shaped just from all the fun and adventures you will have, but from the challenges you without a doubt will face, and trust me, those challenges will arise in numerous amount your freshman year. I don’t mean the scramble of finding a roommate or not being able to pick out the right comforter and cutest dorm
supplies. They are valid dilemmas, but not the ones I am talking about. I am talking about the tiny fears that may linger in the back of your head when you think about taking on an independent college life away from your family and friends you’ve had forever. These tiny fears are on most people’s minds, and overcoming these fears is what will you change you for the better.
- “What if my roommate doesn’t like me?” Roommate situations are always a tad bit on the tricky; no one has a perfect roommate relationship, but as long as you’re respectful to each other, that’s all that really matters. You don’t have to be best friends with your roommate, and many of the most successful roommates actually aren’t, because if you are living and hanging out with the same person all the time, it is very easy to get sick of each other. However, this is not to say that people don’t become best friends with their roommate,s because that also happens, but everyone is different! Having these very personal relationships are great for developing social skills, because you have to learn how to be diplomatic when it comes to who may get the room at certain times, respecting each other’s space, or even just making sure the rooms stays clean.
- “I am going to a college where I literally know nobody!” You and 90% of the freshmen are in the same boat. my friend. Nobody really knows anybody, and that is one of the perks of school, because it forces you to get out of your comfort zone and introduce yourself. I probably introduced myself at least 200 times within the first month of school because everyone is trying to meet people and find someone they will mesh with. Don’t be afraid to sit next to someone new in class and ask them if they want to get lunch after. Who says no to getting food?! Meals are probably where I have made most of my friends; It’s a double whammy. Food plus friends equals a great time. If you don’t have a set of best friends right away, that is completely okay because strong relationships take time, and first semester (and majority of the rest of the year), freshmen are still adjusting and forming new relationships.
- “I have no idea what I want to be when I am older!” This is the struggle of many, and the reason why you are at school. You get to explore interests at an institution where you have resources upon resources to figure out your passion. Take an elective in culinary, or maybe one in communications; dabble here and there and stumble upon what fascinates you and then pursue it. College is a time of discovery, so let yourself discover what your college has to offer.
- “Am I going to be bored because I had so many after school activities in high school?” I totally feel this one, I played field hockey and lacrosse all four years of high school, and then travel lacrosse outside of that. Everyday I had a practice or a game, and then in the off season I was traveling for tournaments. There was so much to occupy me, and now I am at a school that has neither of those sports. I find that I am picking up new interests like writing for She’s Fit To Lead. I joined Ad Club, am training to run a half marathon, and going to rush in the spring. I found myself busy, but still have more time on my hands than I did in high school, and that’s okay. I have gained time management skills, and because I needed to find things to do with my free time other than sports, I am pursuing interests that I didn’t get to before. At your college there will no doubt be more clubs than you can count, and opportunities for you to engage in things you would never even imagine, which can be integral parts of who you will become. You can play a club sport like soccer or you can be in a movie club or in a graphic design club; the sky is really your limit, and you can be as busy as you want to be.
Everyone has these worries, and once you get to college it may take a bit to squash them, because they are all so real and overwhelming. If there’s one good thing that comes with these challenges, it is that they force you to take initiative to fix them. Branch out and explore; by solving your fears you are taking advantage of the college experience, because you are putting yourself out there and navigating the unknown independently and resourcefully. It’s okay to be nervous, but be brave and confident because you have arrived at your college through your own success and hard work, and you deserve the world!
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Sarah Kaiser is a student at Boston University.