Valentine’s Day, for some, is the most romantic day of the year! Full of candy, flowers, and LOVE everywhere. For all the single ladies out there (Yes I include myself in this), it is a day that we all just want to be over. All of the lovey dovey couples on the streets, and our Instagram feeds, it’s just unavoidable. I admit to being high key jealous for a while of these people, especially on February 14th. Why can’t I have what they have? What the hell am I doing wrong?
After my boyfriend and I broke up, this was something that I HIGHLY struggled with. Even now sometimes, I question what is wrong with me, and why I can’t find someone to just LOVE
ME ALREADY. But, I realized over time that the most important person that should love you is yourself. For the longest time, I was looking so hard for someone else to love me that my self-esteem had just completely disintegrated. I was in such a dark place, a place that I lost myself in. All I wanted was to find someone who would bring me up, because I didn’t realize that I could do it myself. I was an empty shell that wanted attention and love. I was desperate.
Luckily for me, I had the support of my friends and family that made me realize that I DID have people that love me. Yeah, maybe I can’t take cute couple pictures with them, and I don’t have someone to call my “boyfriend,” but that’s not what matters. Surrounding yourself with people who will bring you up and make you better on your worst days; THAT’S what love should be about. Not only having other people to do this, but also learning to do this yourself. Going to the gym, getting your nails done, getting an A on the test you thought you failed but studied so hard for. Do things for yourself, show yourself some love, and you won’t be looking so hard for someone else to do this. It was something that I struggled so long with, but now that I have learned what it means to love, and what love should mean to me.
So, this Valentine’s Day, when passing by all the cute couples, there’s no need to feel down! Buy something for yourself that you’ve wanted for a long time. Have a bunch of your single friends over for a movie night. Plan a cute dinner for your family, buy them some chocolate. Valentine’s Day isn’t about having a boyfriend or girlfriend; it is about appreciating all of the people in your life that you love, including yourself. Yes, eventually that will include a significant other. But don’t rush it, you don’t NEED a man in your life to be happy. When that time comes, you will have so much love for yourself and the people around you that you will be able to contribute so much more to your relationship. So, for now, Happy Valentine’s day to YOU and all of the people you love!!!